I don't know exactly how long we corresponded before we spoke on phone, bit think it was several weeks, and then had 3 or 4 very lengthy calls before meeting. We met at a nice restaurant for Sunday brunch in early November and then had a series of dates and quiet evenings. At this time, we plan on being together for the rest of our lives, but we already knew we did not want to remarry.
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